From a morning journal, written in the quiet hours of grief and grace
Some endings do not arrive with conflict or clarity. They arrive quietly—through boundaries, through shifts, through the absence of a presence that once held us. This reflection comes from the grief of releasing a spiritual director whose guidance shaped my inner life for years, and from standing at the edge of a new year knowing her presence will no longer walk beside me in the same way. What follows is not an explanation of what happened, but a meditation on what happens within when a heart breaks—not as something to be repaired, but as something that is being reshaped.
I accidentally woke at 2:30 this morning, thinking it was 3:30. I believed I was giving myself a fifteen-minute head start on the day, when in reality I had given myself closer to an hour and a half. That part, I am grateful for.
It offered me quiet—time to be present in a way I am still learning how to practice. I have been reading a mindfulness book recently, one that is deceptively simple and paradoxically difficult. Not difficult to understand, but difficult to remember to do. It asks me to move at the pace of the body and the psyche and the soul—to breathe in and out evenly, to wash dishes for the sole purpose of washing dishes.
Such a Buddhist philosophy: do not attach. And yet, almost impossible in the culture we live in. We are connected constantly—energetically, technologically, spiritually—even when we are living lives that feel isolated or alone. No matter how or where we live, we remain bound by the law of oneness: “what is in the one is in the whole, and what is in the whole is in the one”.
Yesterday, I sent the final version of a list I had been working on for some time—a list of jewels, gifts, and lessons gathered over the course of my spiritual direction. Before sending it, a few trusted people in my life read it and reflected it back to me. Their responses were generous and kind, and confirmed what I had hoped the message would carry: love, gratitude, sadness, loss—and acceptance.
As I write this, I notice a strange sense of déjà vu. I am trying to imagine myself entering the new year plugged into a different socket, guided by a different spiritual mentor, without the familiar archetypal and spiritual wisdom that once anchored me. There is a grief in that—a real one.
And this is where the beauty of a broken heart begins to reveal itself.
Once a heart is shattered, it cannot be put back together exactly as it was before. There are pieces missing. Chips along the edges. And the work is not to reconstruct it to its former shape. To do so would be to seal it off again—to close it to the very love that once flowed freely and ultimately led to the breaking.
From a morning journal, written in the quiet hours of grief and grace
Some endings do not arrive with conflict or clarity. They arrive quietly—through boundaries, through shifts, through the absence of a presence that once held us. This reflection comes from the grief of releasing a spiritual director whose guidance shaped my inner life for years, and from standing at the edge of a new year knowing her presence will no longer walk beside me in the same way. What follows is not an explanation of what happened, but a meditation on what happens within when a heart breaks—not as something to be repaired, but as something that is being reshaped.
I accidentally woke at 2:30 this morning, thinking it was 3:30. I believed I was giving myself a fifteen-minute head start on the day, when in reality I had given myself closer to an hour and a half. That part, I am grateful for.
It offered me quiet—time to be present in a way I am still learning how to practice. I have been reading a mindfulness book recently, one that is deceptively simple and paradoxically difficult. Not difficult to understand, but difficult to remember to do. It asks me to move at the pace of the body and the psyche and the soul—to breathe in and out evenly, to wash dishes for the sole purpose of washing dishes.
Such a Buddhist philosophy: do not attach. And yet, almost impossible in the culture we live in. We are connected constantly—energetically, technologically, spiritually—even when we are living lives that feel isolated or alone. No matter how or where we live, we remain bound by the law of oneness: “what is in the one is in the whole, and what is in the whole is in the one”.
Yesterday, I sent the final version of a list I had been working on for some time—a list of jewels, gifts, and lessons gathered over the course of my spiritual direction. Before sending it, a few trusted people in my life read it and reflected it back to me. Their responses were generous and kind, and confirmed what I had hoped the message would carry: love, gratitude, sadness, loss—and acceptance.
As I write this, I notice a strange sense of déjà vu. I am trying to imagine myself entering the new year plugged into a different socket, guided by a different spiritual mentor, without the familiar archetypal and spiritual wisdom that once anchored me. There is a grief in that—a real one.
And this is where the beauty of a broken heart begins to reveal itself.
Once a heart is shattered, it cannot be put back together exactly as it was before. There are pieces missing. Chips along the edges. And the work is not to reconstruct it to its former shape. To do so would be to seal it off again—to close it to the very love that once flowed freely and ultimately led to the breaking.
From a morning journal, written in the quiet hours of grief and grace
Some endings do not arrive with conflict or clarity. They arrive quietly—through boundaries, through shifts, through the absence of a presence that once held us. This reflection comes from the grief of releasing a spiritual director whose guidance shaped my inner life for years, and from standing at the edge of a new year knowing her presence will no longer walk beside me in the same way. What follows is not an explanation of what happened, but a meditation on what happens within when a heart breaks—not as something to be repaired, but as something that is being reshaped.
I accidentally woke at 2:30 this morning, thinking it was 3:30. I believed I was giving myself a fifteen-minute head start on the day, when in reality I had given myself closer to an hour and a half. That part, I am grateful for.
It offered me quiet—time to be present in a way I am still learning how to practice. I have been reading a mindfulness book recently, one that is deceptively simple and paradoxically difficult. Not difficult to understand, but difficult to remember to do. It asks me to move at the pace of the body and the psyche and the soul—to breathe in and out evenly, to wash dishes for the sole purpose of washing dishes.
Such a Buddhist philosophy: do not attach. And yet, almost impossible in the culture we live in. We are connected constantly—energetically, technologically, spiritually—even when we are living lives that feel isolated or alone. No matter how or where we live, we remain bound by the law of oneness: “what is in the one is in the whole, and what is in the whole is in the one”.
Yesterday, I sent the final version of a list I had been working on for some time—a list of jewels, gifts, and lessons gathered over the course of my spiritual direction. Before sending it, a few trusted people in my life read it and reflected it back to me. Their responses were generous and kind, and confirmed what I had hoped the message would carry: love, gratitude, sadness, loss—and acceptance.
As I write this, I notice a strange sense of déjà vu. I am trying to imagine myself entering the new year plugged into a different socket, guided by a different spiritual mentor, without the familiar archetypal and spiritual wisdom that once anchored me. There is a grief in that—a real one.
And this is where the beauty of a broken heart begins to reveal itself.
Once a heart is shattered, it cannot be put back together exactly as it was before. There are pieces missing. Chips along the edges. And the work is not to reconstruct it to its former shape. To do so would be to seal it off again—to close it to the very love that once flowed freely and ultimately led to the breaking.
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